Lose Your Cool, Be Loud, Live Life, Love Life!

Keeping your cool at all times, good and bad, is something many people think a matter of maturity, but what I feel is sometimes losing your cool is also essential. If someone always remains calm and cool, there can be something wrong with them. In that a necessity to know what is the reason behind such coolness and innate maturity. It might be the result of loss of coolness, ironically. It might be a sign of overt maturity and the process of disappearing of that child in you.  A person who says he never gets angry, never overreacts, never speaks loudly and never laughs insanely is a wonder, at least in my eyes.

How can it be true that someone is living but not alive, eating but not feeling? How can it be true that someone loves one person so much and at the same time hates someone as much? It has always bothered me that love and hate live together in the same person's heart and mind. It hurts to hate too! It's not easy to hate someone, it even takes courage to not dislike people, more courage than it takes to love. To hate someone and still be cool about it is not possible, in the same way as it is not possible to remain cool when you fall in love. Love and hate. I’m talking about these two as the two feelings are exceedingly intense and extreme. And how can extreme things in life be felt any lesser than they mean to us? The thing is that one cannot possibly be feeling lesser than what they have in their heart. And if they do, they are missing out on something. Missing out on things is okay, missing out on people is okay, missing out on anything is okay, but missing out on feelings, that’s not okay. Feelings are what we’re all made of! We cannot compromise on something that is as important as our existence.

The reality is, anything can be forgotten, feelings can’t. Even forgetfulness is a feeling, and for that matter, even “numbness” is a feeling! Whatever you do, wherever you go, you feel something. Good, bad, pretty, ugly, happy, sad and not. So if we know we’re going to feel something or the other, why always control the feelings? Why try to be subtle? Why not let the feelings burst out of our hearts? Let it shine out bright in the sunlight. If you’re happy, smile as if you’re a child, party all night, laugh, play, shout and jump, sing, dance. If you’re sad, cry it out, be sad. Keep nothing inside you. For you’re not a storage tank, and if your argument is “yes may be I am”, what about a storage tank bursting of overflow? Even that storage tank is made to be filled and emptied for usage, then why keep your feelings inside you? Whatever it is, speak up, scream and shout, empty it all out. For there must be space for new feelings to go inside, and if you’ll hold on to the old ones, how will you ever experience the new ones? Do whatever is needed to take your feelings out, live it out large, loud and screamingly obvious. Why be subtle? Be loud, for loud is what is heard, and low voices are never heard, if you know what I mean. Shout, laugh, sing, lose your mind, be mad, say what you want, be who you are, scream, dance, jump, love, smile, be loud (just not on that office desk) :wink: Happy Monday!

Allow Life some Delays, Wait for your Bigger Picture, but don’t make Life Wait!

All things perfect need to be done at the perfect time. Timing is the essence of it all. Sure, you’ve done everything it takes for it to be perfect, sure there’s nothing you think that’s left in making it what it had to be, but everything gets crappy when things get delayed. You’ve made a perfect office project and you should be proud of having done such a wonderful work at it, but you’re not, nobody is, not even your boss. Why?? Because you made it so perfect that the time when it was needed you didn’t even have it! At a family dinner you asked your mom to skip the dessert, “I’ll make the best dessert ever!!” You made the best dessert ever! You made it perfectly! You put the best taste into it and decorated it with cherries and chocolate. Alas! You decorated it so much that the guests went home with just the hope of you completing your dessert till breakfast.

It’s good to do things perfectly, but sometimes there’s just a thin line between doing things perfectly and over-doing them. You just need to identify that line, even if you do it just with your right foot standing well before the line and left foot in the air almost about to fall out of the line. It’s good enough if you just hold the left foot back and remain inside the line. I’ve seen other people (and myself) sometimes crossing the line, even going so far beyond the line that I can’t see the line anymore! And believe me, it’s completely okay to cross the line, but then that is only okay when it’s in the beginning, once, twice, thrice... You must get back into the line once it starts becoming a habit. Trust me it works professionally, personally and emotionally! It’s normal to sometimes not realize the value of time when we are lost in doing something we like, or something for someone we love. But the damage happens when we stop realizing that it’s not okay to always do the same thing knowing what harm it can do. And this last line goes for everything in life.

Agreed, we being humans can for once control the urge to make things perfect all the time and forgetting the time limit. But what are we to do when not a human but life does the same mistake, plans something, puts us into the scene, starts doing it and in the process, starts overdoing it, and overdoes it so much that we get tired of wanting the thing to happen! What if we do everything in time but life doesn’t? What if we plan something and life has different plans? The only thing we can do is wait until the plans match, until we want the same thing from life as life does from us, until life completes what we've been waiting for.

If we look at it the other way round, it’s a good thing. As I said we take time when we try to make something perfect, may be life’s trying to make something perfect for us! What if while we’re thinking nothing is in our favour and while we’re crying over little delays, life is secretly painting a bigger picture for us! What if it’s magic, something that we can’t see until complete, something that doesn’t show on the canvas until fully painted? Isn’t it something you haven’t thought until now? If it is, think about it now! Give life a chance, some time. Allow life some delays. Wait for your bigger picture, your perfectly baked cake with cherries on the top! But that’s what life does, not you. Until life does it work in its own time, you keep trying to reduce delays and wear your running shoes, for it’s a race and it’s the one who runs faster who wins, not the one who runs “beautifully in style”(Smirk). Ciao. Have a lovely Monday. Keep working, keep achieving, keep smiling, until life brings you new joy. J