Your smile makes it heaven on the earth

It was just another ordinary day, when we woke up, got done with our daily chores, got over with the day like any other day, got up, had our breakfast,  went to the office, had lunch, worked, came back from the office at night, had dinner and then went back to bed. This was the usual course of our day, the day before you came in to our ordinary life and made it extraordinary, till you walked into our lives with your small pink coloured shiny feet, filled light in our lives with your charming smile, tapped your little hands on the bed, made numerous faces while you were asleep, look hopefully at your mother when you were hungry, slept peacefully on our laps with a smile on your face with your pink lips, your small grey coloured sparkling eyes looking at our faces with amusement, moving your little feet in the air as if you are riding a bicycle. Those knees, yes we have felt those small round knees even before you came, with our palms, our fingers, those small feet kicking your mother, your little cute hiccups, that are familiar to your mama since several months as they hit her heart as much as yours.

I distinctly remember the day when you came home. We had decorated your room with red heart shaped balloons, millions of teddies, small pillows for your little head, small and big dolls, pink, white, red, green, blue, orange, there was no colour that was not present in your room that wonderful day. You know the way you came into this world, it makes me feel you are the strongest baby in the whole world, the strength you showed was the first thing you did in your life, and that, I’m sure will build a strong person out of you. It doesn’t matter if you’re a girl or a boy, all that matters to us is that you grow up to become a wonderful person, just like you are right now! I cannot see a girl or a boy in you, I can just see a lovely smile on your face, shiny bright eyes with dreams within, your chubby cheeks waiting to be kissed by your love ones, your little hands holding our finger, your silky shiny hair just like that of an angel, hair that blow lightly with a soft blow of air, hair that make you sleep while we also fall asleep peacefully softly moving our fingers into them in the night.

The principal thing out of all our daily activities is YOU now. It is all important, your poop, your peepee, your sneezes, your sleeps, your waking up, the sweet sound of your breath that sounds like a soft whisper in the ear, your yawns, small yawns that begin as yawns and end up as sleeps, your face turned pink, then red and then white, pale, then pink again, the way you silently fall asleep while we slowly swing you with a lullaby in the night, all this is important, this is all YOU, and YOU are important, the most important, your small feet, your hands, your eyes, your lips, your ears, your nose, your fingers, your nails, nails that we carefully cut so you don’t hurt yourself, your small blankets, your little pink bed, those potty filled nappies that are dearer to me than any perfume filled hankie.

You have come into our lives and entered it in such a way that we cannot even imagine we had a life where you weren’t there, there is hardly any memory without you in it now! And it is strange but you have just come some days ago but it feels as if you have always been there, there has never been a day without you and your sweet presence, our little princess. The way you are bathed and turn your face to bright red, cry unstoppably, and finally the relief of seeing you peacefully sleep, smiling and making sweet sounds in your sweet and sound sleep, there is nothing so relaxing and rejuvenating in this world for me than watching you sleep, like an angel, my snowhite.. You are the light of our nights, the reason and rhyme of our life, the smile on our lips, our baby warrior, you are everything to us, our sweet little princess.

I know you will grow up, but try to never really grow up, just be who you are, innocent and clean at heart, keep the same naïve smile, the same wonderful hands that hold anyone’s finger with pure love and no other reason, keep that breathless charm for us always, hold that pretty small wrinkle on your nose that comes while you laugh, keep alive all your smiles that come while you are asleep, that worry less sleep you enjoy right now, with both your hands by the side of your head, the small innocent dreams that you see and never care about them being fulfilled or not. Grow up, learn to live in and deal with the world, but never become someone that has to be dealt with, just remain this cute little person that is wonderful to talk to, sweet to listen to, awesome to be with, pretty to look at, pink face, meaningless smiles in return to all who smile at you, we love you and always will. Just love and be loved, small baby, always remain such…

Your innocent face makes me think it is all true, and I think though we waited for so long for you to arrive, it was all worth the wait, for your smile made it all worth waiting, your smile makes it heaven on earth for us, keep smiling!

Decide! Take a Step! Take charge, it’s YOUR life!

Yes. Take charge, it’s your life and only you can change it, nobody else, not even your closest people can help you till you yourself are willing to be happy. “When one decides to be happy, no one on earth can make them sad, not even uncontrollable situations like life and death.” If you feel like nobody is listening to you and you have no one to talk to, you still have one person who is always ready and available to talk to you and will always understand you no matter how much stupidity you pour in to the conversation. The only person who can understand you is YOU. Nobody else can take place of the person that you yourself are. Nobody else can make you so happy as you can make yourself. Nobody else can take care of you as much as you can. Whenever you are in a problem, can’t see a solution to anything, and there is no one who you can look up to for help, just look into the mirror and there you will find the only person who would always be capable to help you out of any situation in the world. Once you meet this person you will come to know that this was the same person who always helped you when you were in trouble, it was always this person who waited for everyone to help you and then in the end solved all your problems himself when the deadline approached and nobody else could do it. This person brought every situation under control when you thought your mind was not working. When you thought you were all alone, you actually weren’t, this person was still there with you when everybody left you, when everybody was gone, one wasn’t.

You must have heard this “God helps those who help themselves” and must also have seen instances where people were trying to help someone and he doesn’t take any action to do good to himself and ultimately all those trying to help him fail and quit. It is just one step we need to take for ourselves, not for anyone else but for our own good. For if we are not ready to help the person closest to our heart, who else will be able to help him? Not even God himself is willing to do something extraordinarily good for someone who is not trying for at least something ordinary. It is a very understandable thing that only the one who is ready to do something about what’s going wrong actually comes out of the problem in the end. So if there is something going on and on and you do not like it or you think it is not going good, just become the one who changes the thing and not the one who stands still and looks at things happening and does nothing at all, just asks for help and advice and not even dares to follow the advice. The incompleteness behind every half done work is the sole responsibility of the indecisiveness that comes directly or indirectly from lack of confidence on self, which exists only because one fails to believe he can do anything that nobody else is able to.

One’s self is their own for life, and the oneness with self is something that can create wonders in one’s life. Being happy is not that hard, what is hard is to come out from sadness, and that can only be done if you are happy with yourself. We always want to make our loved ones happy but just think for a while, is it possible for someone to make others happy while they are not happy with themselves? No. How can someone unhappy with himself make others happy? Be happy with yourself. Don’t try to be happy with life, but with yourself. Because it is you that can be changed, not what’s happening in your life. Life will go its own way, whether you like it or not. So this means you are bound to live life as it comes. So what is the use of crying if crying is life is not going good? It won’t change whether you cry or smile or live or die. It is always going to be the same no matter how hard you try. So the ultimate lesson of life is “Live life, take it as it comes, keep smiling, for the absence of smile or presence of tears isn’t going to change the way it is.” So if anyway you must live life as it comes, at least smile and make it easier to bear with it and make it a party and you never know, when smile sticks to you and life itself starts smiling with you. And that day you won’t even remember how it all became so easy for you. It was YOU who changed your life, it was you who made everything bad and difficult finally work for you, it was you who helped yourself, it was you who took a step to make things work the way you wanted them to, it was you who entered the wrong to make it right! It was you who decided to be happy always, and here you are! Always happy, always smiling, always helping yourself, always making decisions, no matter  if they turn out not so good, at least you make decisions, take steps, speak your heart…. So it is the best to decide to be happy, and leave the rest as it is. Things will keep going right and wrong, life will keep moving on and on, you just need to be calm and keep smiling, stop complaining, keep deciding, drop the worry, start thinking for yourself, start planning changes in yourself, be happy always..For it’s your life, you have to take care of yourself. Nobody else is responsible for anything that happens to you. And as a dear one once said to me, “People may be the Reason for your troubles, but it’s only You who is Responsible for how your life is, nobody else”.