Being judgmental and being judged, two situations that
are completely opposite to each other and that involve very different feelings.
Have you ever seen someone judging someone else? You must have. The one who
judges will always be hard nosed and extreme. Look at yourself when you judge
someone the next time. How unsympathetic and callous we become when the mistake
is someone else’s and how kind and forgiving we become when the mistake is
ours!
We all are guilty of judging others and at the same
time forgetting to be empathetic, while being forgiving when we are being
judged. This is human tendency and I don’t think you will be able to say no
when I ask if you have ever done this. And
whenever it comes to someone who is our own, we tend to become protective about
them and limit our vision to whatever looks positive about them and never want
to see the negatives in them. And that’s what our sub conscious does for us. It
helps us ignore the bad points of those we like and embosses the bad points of
those we do not like.
For instance, a close one of yours is very particular
with everything and wants everything specifically according to her taste in her
food and doesn’t tolerate any deviation in it. You proudly tell this to others
as a quality. To you, it is just another ‘good quality’ they have. But if you
find the same ‘quality’ in someone else, you find it ‘attitude’ or ‘just
another tantrum’. You won’t understand this example until you think about
someone other than you who does this. Because this is probably one of those
things that everybody is guilty of but doesn’t actually believe they do. Just
like telling lies. Most people would do that without realizing, some would say
“Oh that! That wasn’t a lie! That was just hiding the truth!” Yeah! Just hiding
the truth! As if hiding the truth is as beneficial as telling it! This is an
amazingly awesome phrase that I’ve found many people saying and not realizing
that hiding the truth is even more harmful and hurtful than telling a lie.
Ultimately what I mean is simply this one line:
whenever we’re judged, ‘they’re being unkind and judgmental’, and whenever we
are being judgmental, ‘right is right and wrong is wrong’. The only thing that
comes out of this blabber is that we must realize when we judge someone that we
might as well be in their place some day and that day, others will be the
judges. So be compassionate. Be empathetic. Be judgmental but only when judging
yourself. Because there is no one other than ourselves on this earth who we can
or should change, and no one on this earth other than ourselves who can or
should change us. So be happy. Be wise. Be empathetic. Be judgmental, but judge
none other than yourself.
