Befriending yourself is the first step to befriending the world!

Have you ever woken up in the middle of the night and become tensed about the long pending things that you have to do, gotten sweaty and unable to go back to sleep? That is what over-thinking does to human brain! You know, it's a vicious circle, if you go on thinking, you can't sleep and if you can't sleep, you can't stop thinking. And this circle will go on and on until you learn to control your flow of thoughts. And that can happen only when you learn how to stop the mind from wandering here and there.

The biggest achievement in human life is to be able to make the mind free of thoughts. And those of you who think it is easy to do, try concentrating on a blank white page for 2 minutes right now and you will get to know how complicated it is to look at a plain page, more complicated than tallying accounts and developing softwares. Try getting one person to do it properly and if you find one, ask them the secret of doing it. For it is not an easy task to not do anything and stay calm. It needs you to love the company of self and to not need anyone else at some times. And loving the company of one's self is the biggest gift one can give to themselves, other than finding their soul mate in this life. The reason I'm saying all this is because when you love the company of yourself you do not need the company of anyone else, not even of those thoughts that keep bothering you in the night not letting you sleep. There lie the answers to all your questions, why doesn't some person like you, why you cannot make friends at college/work, when and how you will be able to complete all work in time, etcetera.

The one person who can understand you is YOU and the one person who can solve all your problems is YOU. And once you stop looking for your answers in others, you will get the answer to all your questions. Just try once to not look for a friend in other people and make yourself your friend, and see how you forget you were alone. This doesn't at all mean that i am asking you to stay aloof from the outside world and concentrate just on yourself. The only reason I am saying this is that even though making friends and being in relationships is a very good and essential thing, one more important thing that we miss out on is to befriend ourselves. And until we understand ourselves, we can understand no one else, and no one else can understand us. So what I'm saying is, 'Befriending yourself is the first step to befriending the world'. And what can be better than starting good things with yourself? Just try it once and you will yourself know how wonderful it feels to have yourself as your most favourite person. Plus you will get to know how it feels to have a friend like you, how lucky your friends must be! 

Get along with the person in the mirror!

"Getting along" with people, it's not as easy as it seems. Those who say this too frequently to other people have probably not come across the type of people that those they advise have come across. This is probably what they call empathy, the ability to put oneself in the situation of others and try to see things from their point of view. This is a quality that has become a peril to those who have it because of its lack in too many people. Another such quality is Workoholism. But it's better that we talk about that some other time.

The best thing would be to jump back to getting along with people, which is almost as hard as achieving the sense of empathy. Have you ever thought how easy are YOU for others to get along with? Probably not. But c'mon isn't it a thing you must give a thought at? I think it is, because when we tell others how hard they are to get along with, it's so much easier than introspecting and getting to know ourselves. And easy things, they can be done by anyone. The bigger person is the one who takes the harder task and does it for good. The beauty of picking the harder tasks is that you can dive into the intensity of what you do and get what you never expected.

As far as getting along is concerned, you can only know how it is for others to get along with you when you try getting along with yourself. In fact, this is the best way to do anything. If you want someone to do something, try to do it yourself first. If you want to know someone, know yourself first. If you want someone to understand you, try to understand themselves first. And thus, if you want people to get along with you, get along with yourself, get along with other people, and then ask others to get along with someone else. Before you do this, how can you ask others to do it? For you can't expect others to do something you don't know whether you can do or not.

Since I was a kid, I have heard my elders saying, "Treat others as you want them to treat you." This has engraved on my thinking so deep that I can relate everything to it in my life. Whenever I am confused as to how my behaviour should be with someone, I just think how I would like them to behave with me. Whenever I give a task to a little cousin or an office subordinate, I first think if I can do the same. I retrospect in the night whatever I've said to people and if I would like being told those things by someone else. This makes me realize my mistakes sooner than I would otherwise and much before it’s too late to correct them. This makes me safe from expecting things that I cannot get, makes me more empathetic and more compassionate. Sure it doesn't stop me from making mistakes, but then who doesn't make mistakes? We're all humans and making mistakes is our birth right. But correcting them well within time is what we can do the best. And doing that as soon as possible is the most wonderful thing we can do. So next time you ask something out of someone, just think for a while, can you do it too? Think. Realize. Correct your mistakes. Smile. Cheers. Love.

Think different, be different. Love yourself

The accusation of being different is the one of the biggest things that bring out the real person in you. The problem with people is that they start making fun of whatever new they see, and the problem with those who do the new is that they fail to ignore the negativity people have show. The loss that both incur because of what they do is that the people laughing at the new miss out on the real special thing that is being created, and the one who's being laughed up on misses out on the fun they can have being different by listening to the stupid comments. But what fun would there be in the world if nobody created something new and bobody laughed on others.

Why do you think despite of all the negativity and differences the world always seems just right? Why do you think everything that is imperfect is still perfect the way it is? It's because everything is meant to have both good and bad sides, every coin is meant to have two sides, every person needs to have both black and white colours. The problem arises when leaving aside black and white, a third colour appears, the grey colour, the mixture of black and white, something that is neither good nor bad, something to which one can neither say yes nor say no. What if everything loses its basic two colours and becomes a mix of both, a colour from which it's impossible to take out one specific answer to your question, and you finally sit down with just a question and a confusion.

Even the world around us has two colours of everything, there are people close to us and far from us, there are seas, there are shores, there are days, there are nights, there are good people, there are bad people, there is sweet and there is sour, there is earth and there is sky, there is water and there is fire, there is god and there is evil, there is right and there is wrong, whatever you think has an opposite side. And as much as i've seen and heard, a mixture of two opposites is always disasterous. And the absence of any one of them is even more disasterous. If there is creation, there is going to be destruction. If things only get created and not destroyed, they will take the form of never ending creations and begin to destry other things, things that are meant to stay longer, things that are not meant to be destroyed.

Whenever someone tells you you're different and asks you why, tell them you're different because they're all the same, and you don't prefer to be something that is common. I mean c'mon, why would I want to look like all the others on my wedding day? the flower girls look the same, the bridesmaids dress all the same, the bride looks different! Why be the bridesmaid? Be the bride. Why be the sheeps and not the shephard?

Why be the same when we can be different and stand out and make an identity of our own? Why listen to those about being odd or wierd from those who do not have the courage to do anything out of the line for good? Why not do what needs to be done, why not do it ourselves than waiting for someone else to do it. Be different and love yourself. For being different and getting afraid of looking different and odd is something anyone can do. The real thing is to be different and show it proudly! Have a happy monday. Ciao!