Be Judgmental, Judge Yourself!

Being judgmental and being judged, two situations that are completely opposite to each other and that involve very different feelings. Have you ever seen someone judging someone else? You must have. The one who judges will always be hard nosed and extreme. Look at yourself when you judge someone the next time. How unsympathetic and callous we become when the mistake is someone else’s and how kind and forgiving we become when the mistake is ours!

We all are guilty of judging others and at the same time forgetting to be empathetic, while being forgiving when we are being judged. This is human tendency and I don’t think you will be able to say no when I ask if you have ever done this.  And whenever it comes to someone who is our own, we tend to become protective about them and limit our vision to whatever looks positive about them and never want to see the negatives in them. And that’s what our sub conscious does for us. It helps us ignore the bad points of those we like and embosses the bad points of those we do not like.

For instance, a close one of yours is very particular with everything and wants everything specifically according to her taste in her food and doesn’t tolerate any deviation in it. You proudly tell this to others as a quality. To you, it is just another ‘good quality’ they have. But if you find the same ‘quality’ in someone else, you find it ‘attitude’ or ‘just another tantrum’. You won’t understand this example until you think about someone other than you who does this. Because this is probably one of those things that everybody is guilty of but doesn’t actually believe they do. Just like telling lies. Most people would do that without realizing, some would say “Oh that! That wasn’t a lie! That was just hiding the truth!” Yeah! Just hiding the truth! As if hiding the truth is as beneficial as telling it! This is an amazingly awesome phrase that I’ve found many people saying and not realizing that hiding the truth is even more harmful and hurtful than telling a lie.

Ultimately what I mean is simply this one line: whenever we’re judged, ‘they’re being unkind and judgmental’, and whenever we are being judgmental, ‘right is right and wrong is wrong’. The only thing that comes out of this blabber is that we must realize when we judge someone that we might as well be in their place some day and that day, others will be the judges. So be compassionate. Be empathetic. Be judgmental but only when judging yourself. Because there is no one other than ourselves on this earth who we can or should change, and no one on this earth other than ourselves who can or should change us. So be happy. Be wise. Be empathetic. Be judgmental, but judge none other than yourself.