Get along with the person in the mirror!

"Getting along" with people, it's not as easy as it seems. Those who say this too frequently to other people have probably not come across the type of people that those they advise have come across. This is probably what they call empathy, the ability to put oneself in the situation of others and try to see things from their point of view. This is a quality that has become a peril to those who have it because of its lack in too many people. Another such quality is Workoholism. But it's better that we talk about that some other time.

The best thing would be to jump back to getting along with people, which is almost as hard as achieving the sense of empathy. Have you ever thought how easy are YOU for others to get along with? Probably not. But c'mon isn't it a thing you must give a thought at? I think it is, because when we tell others how hard they are to get along with, it's so much easier than introspecting and getting to know ourselves. And easy things, they can be done by anyone. The bigger person is the one who takes the harder task and does it for good. The beauty of picking the harder tasks is that you can dive into the intensity of what you do and get what you never expected.

As far as getting along is concerned, you can only know how it is for others to get along with you when you try getting along with yourself. In fact, this is the best way to do anything. If you want someone to do something, try to do it yourself first. If you want to know someone, know yourself first. If you want someone to understand you, try to understand themselves first. And thus, if you want people to get along with you, get along with yourself, get along with other people, and then ask others to get along with someone else. Before you do this, how can you ask others to do it? For you can't expect others to do something you don't know whether you can do or not.

Since I was a kid, I have heard my elders saying, "Treat others as you want them to treat you." This has engraved on my thinking so deep that I can relate everything to it in my life. Whenever I am confused as to how my behaviour should be with someone, I just think how I would like them to behave with me. Whenever I give a task to a little cousin or an office subordinate, I first think if I can do the same. I retrospect in the night whatever I've said to people and if I would like being told those things by someone else. This makes me realize my mistakes sooner than I would otherwise and much before it’s too late to correct them. This makes me safe from expecting things that I cannot get, makes me more empathetic and more compassionate. Sure it doesn't stop me from making mistakes, but then who doesn't make mistakes? We're all humans and making mistakes is our birth right. But correcting them well within time is what we can do the best. And doing that as soon as possible is the most wonderful thing we can do. So next time you ask something out of someone, just think for a while, can you do it too? Think. Realize. Correct your mistakes. Smile. Cheers. Love.